Friday, October 12, 2012

Politics is as personal as ever, day 1: Gas Station Greens

          It’s no surprise I take politics personally, I’m a feminist.  That’s one of the things we chant when we meet in the darkness of the new moon and welcome the crisp autumnal breeze as it blows through the hair on our legs: The personal is political, the personal is political, the personal is political.
         And I don’t think I’m alone here.  I imagine everyone who believes government actually plays a role in shaping our lives, takes politics at least a little personally.  If we expect the outcome of an election to have a direct impact on our ability to find or keep a job, to sustain our mortgage, to rob us of our wealth, to be able to see a doctor, then of course we’re going to take it a little personally.  Of course we’re going to pay careful attention to the words candidates use to court our vote or someone else’s.  Of course we’re going to notice when we’re being taken for granted or taken for an idiot.  Of course we are going to care when we’re being used as a tool, or a scapegoat, or a villain.  Of course.
          That’s why we don’t talk about politics with people who might disagree with us, right?  Not because we agree to disagree.  Or because we want to allow people privacy.  It’s because we take it personally.  When I learn that a friend is supporting Romney, it feels as if that friend has just looked into my eyes and said, “I like you and all, but it’s okay with me if you go on being a second class citizen for the rest of your life.”  That’s not a conversation I’m eager to have.  I’d just as soon we stay in our own corners: you, go back to your cubicle and futz about interest rates for the next three weeks; I’ll just be over hear quietly driving voters to the polls.
          But here’s the thing, I have actually felt President Obama’s impact on my life, in real day to day ways.  And if I don’t tell you about them, you won’t be able to take my life with you when you go to the polls.  So that’s what I’m going to do.  Every day between now and the election I’m going to post one way the Obama administration has impacted my life.  I invite you to do the same--to share a view that parallels mine, or one that tells a different story.  How has the politics of the last four years--or the politics you anticipate unfolding in the next four years--impacted you personally?  How is the political personal for you?

          Here's my first installment:

Gas Station Greens

          Two weeks after Barack Obama was elected President of the United States our youngest son joined our family.  At the time my partner, Darling Virgo, was in nursing school and taking care of our babies (at that point we had five-year-old Hot Shot, one-year-old Moon Boy, and newborn Ankle Biter).  Even though I was an executive director of a non-profit, we were eligible--as a family of five living off my income--to participate in WIC.  I wasn’t crazy about the idea, but we were doing our best to cut expenses.  We had just moved to save money on rent, had no cell phones, or internet access, or cable, or even call waiting.  Our vehicles were a used Prius, a bike, and a double stroller.  We were wrapping both our babies’ bottoms in cloth diapers, and washing them ourselves.  Buying food, rent, and utilities, we were barely breaking even.  And winter was upon us.  So there I would stand in line at the grocery store, assembling my WIC items with the correct WIC checks and reminding myself that by harnessing the federal governments’ money (which is to say, our collective tax dollars) and spending them on groceries at my local grocery store, I was both helping keep grocery baggers employed, and making it possible for us to heat that drafty apartment full of babies.
          The only problem was, the purpose of enrolling in WIC was to help feed our two little boys, but as luck would have it, they were either allergic to, or could not digest, most of the foods that WIC paid for.  Peanut butter, eggs, milk, cheese, bread, cereal, fruit juice… without getting too dramatic I will say that each of these items produced one or more of the following reactions in one or more of our children: diapers full of undigested food (a.k.a. diarrhea) four or five times a day per child, projectile vomiting after each bottle, huge red hives covering face, neck, chest, belly, and back, constant runny nose, chronic gas and wakefulness… it was a pretty gross year.
          It took a while to figure out what was going on with our kids’ bodies because there were so many different foods confounding their systems.  But one thing was clear, they were getting very little nutrition out of anything they ate.  After a year of WIC sponsored iron-fortified formula and cereals, our youngest son had a severe iron-deficiency.  The food just wasn’t going in.  I’m sorry to say it, but there were all your tax dollars collecting in my son’s diapers, not in his muscles and bones.  Not a dime digested.  Not a nickel helping him grow and develop as we might hope.  But then, as we identified each problematic food (first milk, then peanuts, then eggs, then wheat, then gluten, then juice) the WIC workers responded either according to regulations (which meant withholding the WIC checks for foods the boys weren’t able to digest) or according to their conscience (which meant a wink and a smile and a "I’m sure a dozen eggs won’t go bad in your fridge, right?").
          And then (cue the rising sun) in October of 2009, after President Obama had been in office for ten months, WIC changed its guidelines.  Our kids could have soy milk instead of cow milk.  Black beans instead of peanut butter.  Brown rice instead of bread.  Tofu instead of eggs and cheese.  And the federal government stopped spending your tax dollars on full-fat milk and fruit juice (which even at 100% juice is still just like drinking a lollipop), and gave us vouchers to buy fresh fruits and vegetables.  Fresh fruits and vegetables!  Can you believe it?  There were your tax dollars, buying my kids actual food grown in the earth.  And there were my kids devouring bowls of kale, and spinach, and green beans, and pears.  And their skin cleared.  And the diarrhea stopped.  And the vomiting too.  And okay, it’s true Moon Boy’s nose is still runny.  But let me tell you, runny on just one end of the body is a beautiful thing.
          And did WIC change all that?  Was it really WIC that removed the welts from my son’s neck?  No.  Of course it was not WIC alone.  President Obama did not swoop in with a basket of fresh vegetables and say, “try feeding them some Swiss chard instead of all that cheese!”  I was feeding them fresh fruits and vegetables anyway.  I wasn’t forcing them to eat eggs just because we could buy them on the tax payer’s dime.  But the point is, figuring out how to help those boys get the nutrition they needed to thrive was a long and exhausting process.  And having help getting access to the foods they needed rather than the foods that were making them sick, made a world of difference.
          I’m sure it goes without saying that the WIC changes helped a lot more people than just us and our two little boys.  In 2009 your tax dollars stopped buying full fat milk and fruit juice, and started putting fresh apples, and carrots, and lettuce into the refrigerators of America’s under-nourished babies and children.  But your tax dollars did more than that; those same dollars that were feeding runny nosed toddlers, were also bringing fresh fruits and vegetables into corner stores in poor neighborhoods all over the country, because in order to accept WIC checks, those stores were now required to stock at least two fresh fruits or vegetables at all times.  Now that might not seem like much if you’re used to shopping in the supermarket produce department.  But there aren’t supermarkets in every neighborhood.  And specifically, there aren’t supermarkets in the poorest neighborhoods.  Those are the neighborhoods where people depend on the mom and pop shops for their nutrition.  Where the best you can do for breakfast is a pop tart and a diet Sprite.  But now, in addition to cigarettes, and liquor, and Cheetos, you will find a basket of oranges and bananas in those corner stores.  And some places you’ll find more.  I know.  I lived in one of those neighborhoods as recently as last year, and I am not kidding you, there is a gas station there that boasts a prominent produce section where there used to be shelves of Ding Dongs.  The people in that neighborhood can now walk across the street and choose which kind of lettuce to buy.  That gas station is not required to supply three kinds of lettuce, they’re stocking it because people are buying it.  In my book, that’s not big government force feeding us bureaucratic broccoli, that’s smart government affecting real life, day to day progress in the corners of the country that need it most.

          These days it’s hard for me to even remember what our little boys were like back then.  It wasn’t particularly striking to me at the time, but neither of them learned to walk with any real consistency until somewhere around the seventeen month mark.  It didn’t bother me then because I don’t need my kids to be the fastest and best at everything.  But the years since, have taught us something about our boys: they are extraordinarily coordinated and strong.  Moon Boy couldn’t walk until he was a year and a half, but he perfected a cartwheel at three.  He hasn’t turned five yet, but has been executing complicated break dance moves for more than two years, just by watching and practicing.  And he’s already outgrown playgrounds; now, instead of playing on them, he scales the outsides of them--eight feet off the ground he moves hand over hand, foot over foot from one end to the other, not satisfied if his sneaker rests on something that was actually made for standing on.  And Ankle Biter is right along beside.  Learning everything from his brother.  Performing diving forward rolls off of the furniture.  Scampering up rock walls higher than I can reach to spot him.  Not that he needs it.  And he is still three.
          I’m not saying all this to brag.  (Though I’m happy to brag… just say the word and I’ll begin.)  I’m saying this because its now clear that if those two had been eating food their bodies could transform into muscle, they probably would have been running at eight months.  I’m so glad we found the right balance for them, and so grateful that the government was making wise nutritional choices on behalf of our nation’s children when I needed it to be.  When I pay my taxes this spring, I hope it will be to an administration working this forwardly and practically to solve our country’s most basic and personal challenges.


  1. You are an amazing writer and I applaud you for what you've been able to do for your family. I know we'll both be voting for the same candidate come election day.

  2. Now I'm sitting at home trying to figure out how Obama changed our lives. thx for this.

  3. Thank you for your insights, wit and wisdom...right there with you in appreciation for change and also the sentiment about people who would have Romney as their prez. Hard to imagine any self respecting woman voting for him):

    Blessings on you and your lovely family,


    1. Edie,

      Thank you for the thumbs up. Like you, I sometimes find myself wondering why any woman would vote for Romney, but that's partly why I started this series. I can feel tangible positive effects of Obama's presidency on my life. I'm wondering what it is that women supporting Romney feel. I have no doubt that those women are every bit as self respecting as I am, still I feel judged by people "on the other side" and I certainly find myself judging them. I'm sharing these stories because there's a part of me that believes, if only they could hear what real life changes Obama has made, they will be compelled to vote for him. But also, I'd really like to hear other people's stories, so that I can understand better where they are coming from as well. And maybe, just maybe, I will hate them less for supporting a candidate who believes I am not worthy of equal rights under the law.

      Thanks for reading,

  4. As a young mother in 1970s/1980s, I also used WIC. I love that it has FINALLY got more with it! Very encouraging. Thank you for sharing your story.

  5. Thanks for sharing. I live just west of downtown in Franklinton, a food desert. Over the past year we've witnessed successful initiatives to bring fresh produce to corner stores. Smart government and a vibrant civil society combined could turn this country around yet. Or at least move Columbus a bit further along..